Talking Dirty
Your initial reaction to this phrase may be a negative one;
after all it is loaded with negative connotations. Nevertheless,
the use of explicit descriptions in sex play can be extremely
beneficial. They allow us to get in touch with our carnal
passions and can be a healthy expression of our sexual desires.
Most importantly we can use explicit words and phrases
to enrich our sex lives adding a new dimension to our sexual
expressiveness.
How to start "Talking Dirty"
Although the idea of talking dirty may be incredibly exciting
for you, your partner may have a different reaction. It
is important to approach the topic in a sensitive manner
so your partner doesnt think youve gone mad.
A nice way to introduce explicit sexual talk is by responding
to your partner. When she/he is massaging your genitals
you may want to respond with phrases like:
"Honey, it feels so good when you rub my cock that way.
Thanks for being such a wonderful lover."
"My clit is pulsating with pleasure. Youve know
how to rub me the right way."
When introducing sexually explicit talk try to couple
it with reassuring or tender words. This will help take
some of the edge off these words that many people can find
troubling or a turnoff. See how your partner reacts to such
prompting. You may discover that some words are perfectly
acceptable to the two of you while others should be kept
out of the bedroom. If you partner does not seem to be responding
then you may want to involve them in another way.
When pleasuring your partner you may want to ask some questions
to just get him/her talking. For instance you may want to
ask whether it is more pleasurable when you "rub your
clit" or "massage your nipples". A simple
yes or no answer will do. Getting your partner to talk is
an important beginning. It is much easier to explore the
topic when you have a partner who is willing to communicate.
Then you can ask them what they would like. If they are still
shy then continue asking them.
Remember some people may be uncomfortable with these words
so be considerate of your partners wishes.
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