Now it's time to say good bye....
I think we should break up. How do you know when it's
time to say those dreaded words? How can you tell that it's
over? How do you say that it's over? Is it normal to still
care for that person when you know you no longer want to be
involved romantically? Well, here I am again with my point
of view on this issue. I make no pretense that I know what
everyone needs to do or say in romantic situations, but
I do know what affects me. Experience and the simple power
of numbers have shown me that if there is one person in the
world who feels a certain way, then it is highly likely that
there are others who feel that way as well. I suspect that,
this could be true whether a person willingly admits their
feelings to the world or not. O.K., end preamble
When a relationship begins, something of notable interest
to both parties is usually present. For some of us, it could
be one or more common interests- for others it could simply
be the way another person moves or the way they appeal to
our eye. There are many positive and substantial reasons
for pursuing a relationship, as there are also many not
so positive and superficial reasons. Whatever the reason-
relationships begin and bonds begin to form.
While it seems hard for some of us to move into that phase
of relationship building that is often called the relationship-
we often find ourselves committed to another person in
a way that acknowledges a sort of unique bond between ourselves
and the other party. This commitment can take the form of
monogamous sexual relations, exclusive emotional intimacy,
or even a looser form of either or both. These are by no means
the only form that a relationship may take either- there
are many ways a relationship may blossom and develop.
At some point however many relationships take a turn for
the worse. That thing of notable interest that originally
brought two individuals together seems to be gone or no
longer holds the same power of attraction. The magic is
gone and the relationship becomes a source of distress
and often misery. What was once great about an individual
somehow seems lost behind what is not so great about the
situation at hand and it becomes time for one or both parties
to reevaluate what they hoped to gain from the relationship.
How does one know that a relationship is over? There are
many books written on the subject, so that may suggest that
there is really know one way of determining that a relationship
should be pursued no further. There is, however, a way that
an in individual might assess the value of a relationship
and determine if it should continue. In my experience that
is by knowing what makes you happy and determining if your
relationship is doing that for you. Knowing yourself is
the surest way to determine if your relationship should
continue. Until next time.
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