"A THREESOME??!!? HAVE YOU LOST YOUR MIND????"
Handled responsibly...The experiance can be a wonderful
fulfillment for everyone involved. Make certain that
both you and your partner are without question attracted
to the third party...and not simply agreeing to "Whom
ever", thinking that you are helping the fantasy
"Come true" for the partner. This is for both
of you to experiment with and enjoy. If you or your significant
both are not aroused completely, desire may be limited
during the activity by one half of the couple...or the guest,
taking away from the overall enjoyment for everyone present.
Talk to each other before such an encounter. Clearly, and
honestly tell one another what it is that you want out of
the experiance, without holding anything back. Set ground
rules concerning comfort levels during the play period...and
dont be shy to explain those ground rules, and desires to
the third party before hand. Respect the guests input on
this as well. More importantly, you and your mate come up
with a certain phrase, word, action, or gesture that neither
of you would ever say or do under any circumstance to use
as a "SAFE" word. This will make it easier for
each of you to immediately be aware in the heat of passion
when the other person becomes uncomfortable with anything
that is happening (Sometimes, anxiety can be mistaken
for sexual excitement, even by those couples that have
been together for many many years).
While everyone is enjoying themselves, dont forget to
give everyone alittle "One on One" time. Sit
back and catch your breath. Enjoy watching your partner
explore...it is something you may not have ever been lucky
enough to take in as a bystander. This is a learning opportunity
for each of you to see your partner's desires and reactions
fully...something that isnt always on your mind when you
are close to an orgasm yourself! take time to be an observer.
You may catch a few new hints and tricks that will make your
next private session with just the two of you hotter than
ever.
Talk about the experiance afterward, but dont grind it
into the ground by bringing it up again and again. Make certain
everything went well for each other...and that there are
no guilty feelings, and leave it at that. Again, be honest
here.
Do not ask questions like "Did he / she feel better
than me?", "Were you more attracted to him /
her?". Do not maintain any jeolously about the level
of excitement your partner experianced. Remember that
you being there and sharing together was most likely the
key ingredient of your loved one's overall enjoyment.
Find out if both of you would be willing to try it again in
the future, and if either is uncertain...give it a couple
of months before bringing it up again as an option. Give
your partner time to completely think about the encounter.
If you find that they are not interested in repeating the
activity...respect that decision. Perhaps in time the
urge may resurface, but let them be the one to suggest it
from that point forward.
Above all, enjoy being two people in love who are secure
with their sexuality, their relationship...and willing
to give such a special gift to one another. To let each other
explore their desires and fantasies, and sharing those
desires openly with each other is a beautiful event.
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