Getting her...
Hey, guys, has your style for arousing women been letting
you down lately? Does your suggestion of a romp between
the sheets meet with a yawn, a giggle, no dice? Would you
like to have women chase you for a change? Or would you just
like something new to try?
Here's a way to intrigue a woman into wanting to take
you to bed. It works particularly well for those situations
where you see someone on a fairly routine basis - at school,
at work, at the gym, and the coffee house and you're
shopping for someone worth your time and energy.
The Strategy
Sexually, women expect to be rushed by the wolfpack, especially
the gorgeous ones. They expect men to have sex on the brain
most of the time. They expect to say no a lot, and many of them
are exhausted by all the unwanted attention they get just
from walking down the hallway minding their own daydreams.
One of the best ways to intrigue a woman is something like
playing hard to get; it's actually playing hard-to-arouse.
In a nutshell, pretend that sex doesn't exist. I'm
serious. Converse with her as if you're totally oblivious
to that hard-on pounding in your pants. Don't make
obvious sexual commentary, show leering, lusting glances,
or acknowledge your shivers of delight whenever she uncrosses
and re-crosses her shapely legs in front of you. At the same
time, be friendly. Smile. Get to know her as a friend and
let the rest of your personality flow forth. Be as warm as
you dare without being pushy or romantically gushy. Entertain
her with your humor. Engage her in some serious conversation.
Even flirt with her, but without selling the idea of sex
with you or asking her on a date.
Are You Dead or What? A couple of things happen when you get
to know a woman without selling sex. First, she's not
on the defensive so much. She doesn't have to put up
with one more man's barrage of unwelcome and crude
sexual come-ons. For many
women, that feels like an oasis. Secondly and paradoxically,
she may start to wonder
if you're sexually dead, particularly if she's
attracted to you. Why aren't you coming on to her? Are
you gay, married, celibate? Why aren't you giving
her sexual compliments
and trying to get inside her panties like so many others?
The fun thing about this friendship technique is that if
she's at all interested in you (your looks, your personality,
your potential as a lover), she'll start pursuing
you. (This is what many men secretly want for a woman to pursue
them.) She'll go out of her way to check you out, and
usually, to send you stronger signals that she's interested.
Your job is to pay attention to the signals you're receiving.
Depending on her personality and sexual confidence, her
signals will be subtle or bop-you-over-the-head blunt.
Most of the time, a woman interested in a man makes herself
presentable and available. Then she lets him know in a bunch
of subtle ways that she would welcome his sexual advances.
Watch for sweet smiles, longer than normal gazes, slight
touches on your arms or shoulder. Watch for a distinct show
of interest in you including questions about your love
life. A woman with a seductive agenda of her own will start
flaunting her body more to play with your imagination.
Building Sexual Interest
So how do you build sexual interest when you're playing
possum with your sexual urges? A woman often plays defense
against a lineup of salivating men. A smart and sexy man
gives her the chance to play offense. He gives her the power
to run the show. Many women truly appreciate emotional
bonding. You can actually build sexual interest by becoming
a friend she can rely on. If she trusts you and enjoys your
company, you're halfway home. She'll treat you
quite differently when she sees you as a friend rather than
some guy who just wants a pleasure cruise between her legs
and who'll dump her in the trash bin with the empties.
If she's attracted to you, she'll inevitably
steer the conversation to love and sex. When you answer
her sexual questions, keep your replies general, somewhat
mysterious. For example, if she asks what kind of women
turn you on, don't immediately gush "women like
you."
This is a great opportunity to build romantic intrigue.
"I like a woman who wants to make sex special."
She'll likely want to know what you mean by that. Keep
the conversation general; don't imply that you're
dying to have sex with her. Paint a word picture of sex being
precious to you and let her conclude that you appreciate
a woman who understands your need for quality. If things
go well, she'll send signals that she wants to be that
person. You don't need to play this technique on the
sly. You can be totally genuine and tell her exactly what
you're doing. "You must be tired of being hit
on all the time. I'd really enjoy getting to know you
without sex getting in the way." If she gives you a
funny look, you can add, "I just want to get to know
you first." Sound at all familiar? Women use it all
the time. Meanwhile, she may not believe that you want true
friendship, so she may test you. One common test is, "You're
unlike any man I've ever met. I really wouldn't
want to spoil the friendship we have by having sex with you."
She may truly mean it and never want sex with you; however,
she can just as easily change her mind when you've proven
your integrity .Been there, done that.
The new skill here is to be subtle and mysterious about sex.
Captivate her mind, and her body will follow. Become her
friend and confidante, earning a special place in her life,
and reap the rewards of delivering something that other
men don't give her. And the surprise bonus: if you wind
up in bed together, you'll be sharing good times with
someone you've grown to care about.
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